Be Your Own Guru

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“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”
– Lao Tzu

Your friend will give you advice. Because you need it. Your spiritual teacher will tell you how to pray. Because you need to learn. Your fitness coach will give you a workout plan. Because you need to train without hurting yourself. You read best-selling, self-help books. Because you want to grow and develop.

But, at the end of the day after everyone tell you what’s best for you, there’s only one person who can tell you what’s best. YOU.

No one knows you better than you. No one knows how your body gains weight after one bite of chocolate cake. No one knows who’s the perfect partner for you… or not. No one can tell you the best meditation since you know how your mind works. No self-help book, no matter how well written or if it’s a New York Times best seller, can tell you how to make your life better. Continue reading

Then You Will Be Happy

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“If you want to be happy, be.”
– Leo Tolstoy

If I had more money, then I’ll be happy. If I had the perfect partner, then I’ll be happy. If my loved ones listened to me, then I’ll be happy. If I had my dream job, then I’ll be happy. If I, could I, If I had, If I did…then I’ll be happy.

Or will I be?

Well…no. I won’t be happy. Because the only way to find true happiness is by discovering it within yourself first. It begins and ends with you. Whether you are in a shitty job or have the perfect career, feeling joy and shining your inner light is the key to living a life of balance and harmony.

Searching for happiness outside of yourself or in a bunch of what if’s that may or may not happen, leads you to walking around in big circles. This circle leads you right where you started. Searching for happiness.

Stop searching. Right. Now. Instead look and listen to your heart, your essence, your soul. Within this space is where you’ll find happiness that will sustain you while giving lasting peace and deep inner strength. Only you can provide this. Not anyone else, no other stuff or any other circumstances.

Happiness is also created by living in the here and now. Being fully present while savoring each moment cultivates gratitude for being alive. No matter where you are, how much you’ve suffered or whoever has hurt you in the past… you ALWAYS have something to be grateful for.

Amazing, wonderful and beautiful things will happen. Difficulties, rugs being pulled from underneath you and unexpected traumas will rock your world. All guaranteed. But to remain calm and centered and in all experiences, requires you to embody deep, relentless and committed inner joy.

Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. Or you can choose to be unhappy. It’s up to you. You have free will to decide where to be, what to do and who to be with. If you are in an unhappy relationship, you can work on it or get out. If you hate your job, you can change your perspective or find a new career. God gave you the power to charter your own journey while co-creating your life with the Divine.

Many people claim they are “stuck”. But being stuck is an illusion. No one was brought to this earth to live a stuck life. All of us are meant to experience life filled with joy, passion and purpose with the energy to love and serve others. Taking responsibility for yourself and your life gives you control of your happiness. Not your circumstances controlling you.

Shifting your perspective and changing your mindset, creates the space for happiness to grow. All you need is to see and be aware happiness begins and ends with you. Always.

I don’t a lot of money, but I am happy. I don’t have a beautiful house, but I am happy. I don’t have the perfect partner, but I am happy. Sometimes my son doesn’t listen to me, but I am happy. Doesn’t matter if I, could I, If I had, If I did…because I am happy.

Will you be happy?

Photo by Lesly B. Juarez on Unsplash

5 Simple Things to Create Joy & Brighten Your Spirit

 

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“Joy is the fibre of your Soul. “
– Danielle LaPorte

Life can be challenging, exhausting and heart-wrenching. Let’s face it… sometimes it just plain sucks. But, what if you had a list of simple things to make yourself happy, create joy and brighten your spirit. A go to prescription list to medicate your mind and heal your heart and soul.

Here are some things I’ve tried that helped me and want to share them with you. All I ask is you try one of them, just for one day. If any of these makes you feel happy and joyful, awesome! If none of these make you happy and joyful, that’s ok too. It means this wasn’t the right list for you. But the world is unlimited filled with opportunities to create peace and joy.

  1. Do Not Worry: Just for today, let go of your worries and release your troubled mind. You know those stories of mass destruction filled with pain and suffering playing repeatedly in your mind? Guess what? Never happens. It’s easy to imagine worst-case scenarios. But, in the end, everything usually turns out OK. All worrying does is steal your light sucking the life force energy out from underneath you. The next time you worry, replace it with prayer or a positive affirmation. Worry steals life, but prayer feeds life.
  2. Meditate: Sit in silence for five minutes a day. Yes, just five minutes. To calm the mind and build focus, that’s all you need. Sit on a chair or sit on the floor with your back straight. Focus on your breathing. In and out, in and out. When the mind wanders, and it will, gently bring it back to the breath. Just breathing. When thoughts come, let them go like waves in the sea or clouds in the sky. A simple, daily meditation practice gives you presence of mind to create peace, clarity and stillness in all areas of your life.
  3. Spend Time Outside: Spend 10-20 minutes a day outside in nature. Take your dog for a walk, play ball with your kids in the backyard, look at the stars at night, or read a book sitting next to a tree. When you spend time outside, you ground your energy releasing any negativity from your body and your energy field. Nature is a natural healer balancing and centering yourself making you feel peaceful, whole and connected.
  4. Pray: Talk to God for 5-10 minutes every day. Pray for yourself when you feel lost and can’t see the sun beyond the storm. Pray for your family when they are sick and want to ease their pain. Pray for your friends so they may be happy, successful and prosperous. Pray for your neighbors, the Walmart store clerk, the UPS guy who comes to your office, and even the stranger on the street whom you never met. When you pray for others and yourself, you feel a connectedness to humanity with a deep understanding we are all one.
  5. Read Spiritual Books: Read a book on spirituality. Whether it’s reading a Bible scripture, a chapter from the Course in Miracles or any author whose words touch your heart, it will lighten your spirit making you feel inspired and alive. Words are powerful with ability to penetrate deeply in your soul helping you see things from a different perspective. Reading spiritual books creates positive change within yourself bringing you to a higher vibration.

With the energy of today’s environment and the stress pounding on your soul every day, take a little time to make yourself happy. Even if it’s just for one day, try these simple things to shine rays of light into your spirit and to open your heart. You deserve to feel joy and love in your life no matter where you are. If you start today, then maybe you can feel joy the next day, then the next, and the next… until one day living in joy and being the light is the essence of who you are.

Birds Set Free

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I’m not gon’ care if I sing off key
I find myself in my melodies
I sing for love, I sing for me
I shout it out like a bird set free
No, I don’t care if I sing off key
I find myself in my melodies
I sing for love, I sing for me
I’ll shout it out like a bird set free
I’ll shout it out like a bird set free
I’ll shout it out like a bird set free”
– Sia

I look at the birds flying high in the sky. Easily. Effortlessly. Flying. No mental restrictions, no hesitations, no “what will they think of me” bullshit thoughts, no “what if I fall” fearful thoughts. The birds just fly, fly and fly because that’s what they are meant to do.

But like the birds you are meant to fly too. God created you to fly high living to your fullest potential with confidence, belief and joy. But instead, you put the chains of negative thoughts and mental illusions around your wings holding you down. You sit quietly afraid to say what you’re really thinking. You’re motionless and afraid to express what you’re really feeling. You stand still afraid to act on the passions burning hot in your heart because you’re petrified of looking like a complete idiot.

Break free and release yourself from the chains of fear and negativity binding and holding you down. Allow yourself to open your wings and fly high setting yourself free. Who cares if you mess up or make a mistake? Who cares if you stumble and fall? Who cares if you sing off key, draw outside the lines or dance awkward? If you let go, get up and fly, you will end up somewhere. You’ll arrive much farther in life than if you stayed chained in place. Guaranteed.

To open your wings and fly takes courage. Lots of it. No doubt. You will crash splattering body parts on the ground. You will hit a wall bringing you to halting stop jarring you deep in your core. Or fly into a tree getting stuck in the leaves and branches.

But, the more you let go and practice setting yourself free, the more you learn about who you really are and what you are capable of. Your confidence will grow stronger each time you fly going higher and higher, crashing less and less. Until one day, you’ll soar high up in the sky seeing the infinite possibilities waiting for you to explore.

When you become like a bird setting yourself free, you are free to be you. Free to express yourself without hesitation or fear of feeling stupid, unloved or unwanted. Those negative thoughts won’t enter your mind because your soul will be filled with enormous love and unwavering belief in yourself. Your courage will fire up giving you the strength to do what you always dreamed of. You’ll be fully equipped and ready to fly around the world showing what you are made of.

Today. Right now. In this moment. Go open your wings and fly high setting yourself free. Fly with glowing radiance, magnetic energy, raw authenticity, miraculous strength, uninhibited truthfulness, real and fearless love, boundless courage, and complete empowerment. Be like the birds at one with the flow of life and at one within your true self. Easily. Effortlessly. Flying, flying, flying…

Featured photo by Calvin Kan

Love Yourself First

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“Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.”
– Byron Katie

Every morning when you wake up, the first thing you should do is to appreciate yourself, your life and your new day. Know deep in your heart you have much to be grateful for. Your alive. Your breathing. Your blank canvas is waiting for you. It’s beckoning for you to paint the scenes of the hours and minutes of your life to come. But, to create a beautiful masterpiece filled with color and vibrant energy requires one vital thing …

Love Yourself First.

If your day gives you lemons and throws rocks at you, be easy on yourself. We all have bad days, but they don’t define us. They are an experience. A learning lesson. Are they hard and excruciatingly painful sometimes? Yes, absolutely! But they are only a moment in time. And this moment will pass until becoming a distant memory fading into the infinite sky. So, when life throws you punches and you feel you can’t take anymore punishment, remember this one thing to keep you strong…

Love Yourself First

When you make a mistake a work, feel fat, forget to pay a bill on time, have a bad hair day with a humongous pimple on your face, get angry at your kids, feel overwhelmed, unworthy and plain stupid… remember you are beautiful, loving, compassionate, amazing, powerful and strong. And, your totally and completely worth it. You will feel awesome above all the shit in your life if you remember this one thing…

Love Yourself First

Creating more light in the world spreading joy and peace begins with you. If you love yourself a little bit more each day, it spreads like wildfire into your soul, into your heart, to your loved ones, the grass beneath your feet, the next-door neighbors, to their next-door neighbors, then spreading to every being in your town. This wildfire of fierce, purifying, magnificent love begins and only begins with you. To ignite this fire of sacred love, all you need to do is this one simple thing…

Love Yourself First

The truth is real love is not outside of yourself. It’s in you. You are love. Yesterday, you were love. Tomorrow, you will be love. This is essential truth never changes. All you need is to drop your guard and see it, feel it, hear it and know it. No matter what happens to you or what challenges you face, the light of love always shines bright even beneath the dark clouds. So on the days you mess up and fall apart to biblical proportions or create magic with your presence, remember this most important thing…

Love Yourself First

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Bad Ass 2016 Year in Review

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The other day I was reading Danielle LaPorte’s blog post (check her out… total spiritual warrior), on the 5 Q’s for Your Deeper Year in Review. Danielle answered, and invited others to answer, these five questions below to gain self-inquiry and insight from the past year and hope for the next.

What didn’t work?

What did work?

What were the highlights?

And then: What does the new year look like if it’s full of what works?

Bonus Q: What do your highlights say about you?

I thought “Damn!” These are bad ass and sooo much better than New Year’s Resolutions. To be honest, resolutions suck and are a hell of a lot worse than doo doo. And since, I loved this strategy, I decided to answer these questions myself and share them with you. And, hopefully, you will answer your 5 Q’s and share those as well.

What didn’t work?

  • Not trusting and believing in my abilities. Gotta trust myself and not rely on anyone else for my success and happiness. It’s comes to down to me baby!
  • Worry: Nothing amazing comes out of worry. Ab-solute-ly nothing.
  • Being too nice: Just because I am a spiritual geek doesn’t mean I should let anyone treat me like a doormat. No one has the right to treat me that way. Nada zip zero. No one.
  • Not listening to my body when it’s in pain. Mind, body and spirit are one. Must integrate all parts to live whole.

What did work?

  • Taking fear by its horns and smashing it down to the ground by starting this blog.
  • Finally taking care of my body when it’s in pain. That integrating to live whole thing.
  • Learning to love myself no matter what. You can’t rely on love from other people to make you make happy. This love must come within your heart and soul extending out into your entire being.
  • Trusting my intuition. My gut never lies. Ever.
  • Back to meditating every single day. Peace at last.
  • Starting my Reiki practice again. Profound healing begins.
  • Smiling as much as possible. Because it works for myself and everyone else around me.
  • Loving and embracing my sensual side as a woman. Seriously… wearing beautiful clothes that make you feel good works. Plain and simple.

Highlights

  • My son, Hunter, taking Judo with me and watching him compete. Hell! I never competed in Judo. Kudos to Hunter!
  • Seeing Hunter perform loud and proud in his first musical. He rocked it!
  • Inspiring people to live in truth to their heart and souls with my blog and writing.
  • Becoming a published writer with guest blog posts on SweatpantsandCoffee.com and TheChangeBlog.com. Yes! I feel like a legitimate writer.
  • Bad ass girl’s night out with my martial arts super hero chicks. Celebrating Katelyn’s 21st birthday was a must. And, we kicked it!
  • Testing in the DoJang for the first time with Hunter. Me: 2nd level Brown Belt in Judo, Hunter: Yellow stripe in Judo. Sweeet!
  • Creating deeper and long-lasting connections with my truest friends.

And then: What does the new year look like if it’s full of what works?

  • Taking my blog and my writing beyond expectations. Honest, no holds barring, risk taking messages. Complete and utter truth speaking straight through the mind and soul.
  • 2017 is my year. Nothing less. Hopefully more. I will make damn sure this happens.
  • Making those long-lasting connections grow deeper creating stronger friendships.
  • Allowing intuition to blossom. Watch out world… I am getting ready to serve you more.
  • Being a complete bad ass woman at all levels filled with light, love and spirit.

Bonus Q: What do your highlights say about you?

  • I love people. I love helping others and making them smile. I love love. And I am learning to love myself once again. It’s all about love, baby.

Now, it’s your turn! Let’s hear it and share it with me and others today.

Have a Blessed and Happy New Year!
Jodi

Featured photo by Brigitte Tohm

 

Angel Gifts

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“It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.”
― Mother Teresa

After a rough night of sparring matches, I walked outside the dojang facing my next opponent… the beastly December weather. Stepping towards my car with light feet as to not slip on the ice, the blistering wind speared into face penetrating into my bones. I didn’t want to go anywhere else but home. Get into my soft jammies and snuggle with my dog as my heavy blanket wrapped around me. Yes, that’s what I wanted.

But wait! There was one more thing I had to do. A very important task. Vital. Crucial. No amount of snow or cold weather blast would stop me from getting this done tonight.

Going shopping for my Christmas angel gift.

At my church, we have a list of needy children given to us from the area schools. These kids come from poor homes and families with hardships so they’re in desperate need of someone buying them a gift. How awful and heartbreaking it would be if a child didn’t receive a Christmas gift. Right?

Anyone at our congregation is welcome to sign up to purchase an angel gift for one of these kids. So, every year I jump at the chance to bring a moment of joy, and hopefully, a smile to a child’s face.

But these angel gifts are much more than material things. They’re gifts of hope. Love. Peace. Excitement. A chance to make these kids feel they are a part of something greater and are not alone. It helps them know they are being watched over and taken care of. It’s proof we are all connected, and God is with them always no matter what their circumstances are.

As I was shopping, this got me thinking (which can be a very dangerous thing!). Why do we have to wait until Christmas to give angel gifts to show we care? What if we gave angel gifts all year round to help spread the message of love and joy? We don’t need to spend lots of money or buy something extravagant. It could be crazy, super simple.

  • Give someone a hug out of the blue just because.
  • Tell the tired and stressed out Walmart cashier with dozens of impatient customers behind you thank you for taking care of your groceries.
  • Calling a friend to say hello or set-up a lunch date to catch up instead of communicating via Facebook.
  • Tell your friend they are beautiful. We all need to hear we are a beautiful. We’re so hard on ourselves on the way we look, aren’t we?
  • Shovel the snow in your neighbor’s driveway.
  • Bake cookies for a family member or cook their favorite dish. Especially if they are experiencing hardships and feel overwhelmed.
  • Send someone a card with a thoughtful and inspiring handwritten message.

The list is endless. Unlimited. A vast ocean of creative opportunities to spread your wings and fly with your angel gifts of love. If you like New Year’s resolutions, add giving angel gifts to your list. Commit to giving these gifts of love, gratitude and service beyond Christmas throughout the entire year.

It will make someone else feel special, loved and connected. Including you.

Merry Christmas to you all!
Jodi

 

Featured image by Ben White

Be Bold. Be Beautiful.

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“Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it.”
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Today, decide to do two, simple things to change your life.

Be bold. Be beautiful.

Being bold and beautiful means choosing to be assertive standing in the real you. Raw, honest, authentic, strong, vivacious, loving, fearless, compassionate and empowered. Being bold dressed in the real you makes you beautiful like a shining star sparkling in the indigo sky.

Being bold and beautiful is not being what someone else wants you to be. Not following today’s trend guaranteed to die tomorrow. Not following the masses because everyone else is doing it. And not trying to impress the wrong people for the wrong reasons.

When you become bold and beautiful, your unlimited. Powerful. Magnetic. Your spirit soars like a rocket to the heavens above giving a message you are ready for more. God will listen sending you affirmations and opportunities to make you more the real you.

I will be honest. Some people won’t like the real you. It will frighten them shaking every fiber and bone in their bodies smack down into their core. Because seeing you be real makes them feel they should be real. And, you know what? They are afraid of facing the real person deep inside of them.

The ones who are ready for the bold and beautiful real you, are ready and waiting for you to arrive. This tribe, your tribe, will always have your back. I betcha they too are ready to be bold and beautiful just like you.

Today from here on out fill your life with fire-breathing passion, real and gut-wrenching love, unwavering and focused commitment and a solid connection to humanity. This transforms you into the ultimate beauty irresistible to yourself and the world in every way.

Be bold. Be Beautiful.

 

Featured photo by Tavin Dotson

Gratitude Prayer with Free e-Book

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May you have safe travels where ever you go on your Thanksgiving journey.

May you feast on food that nurtures your soul while satisfying your taste buds filling your tummies full.

May you hear the boisterous laughter and see the smiles of your family and loved ones.

May you be free from stress feeling peace and serenity during this holiday season.

May you be free from pain and suffering bringing light, vitality and joy into your life.

May you rest in equanimity and be free from anger, resentment, greed and jealousy.

May you remember to be grateful for all that God has given you appreciating every single moment.

May you feel the connectedness with those around you knowing we are all one, big family.

May you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving and feel the love deep in your heart and soul.


I am so grateful to have you on this journey and look forward to more years to come. As a token of my gratitude, I am offering a free e-book to my subscribers, 31 Days to Soul-Fueled Living. In this e-book for 31 days, I will give you a tip a day to help you live a soul-fueled life.

But what the heck does it mean to live a soul-fueled life?

It means to live with love, joy, energy, peace and beauty. It’s anything that refreshes the body, awakens the mind and ignites the soul. Soul-fueling living is being true to yourself while embracing every inch of who you are.

Click here to download your e-book and get started today.

Thank you so much and Happy Thanksgiving to you all!

Love,
Jodi

Featured photo by Ian Schneider

 

Be the Light in Post-Election Trauma

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“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”
– Martin Luther King, Jr.

Darkness pervades the promised land. The black clouds of anger, hate, fear, resentment and anxiety spreads across the sky snuffing out the sunlight. It fills our towns. Our streets. Our buildings. Our homes. Our bodies. Our hearts. We can’t see anything anymore. Only negativity. It’s debilitating. Heavy. It’s wearing down on our energy and our souls.

The invisible wall has been built. It can’t be seen with the physical eyes, but the division is made clear and strong. The feeling of us and them has never been more palatable pulsating through our veins feeding fear and angst into every cell of our bodies.

Seeing our nation torn apart with all the fighting breaks my heart. Doesn’t it break yours? Can you feel the pain and the hear the crying of those suffering?

No doubt this election was a harsh, bright flashlight inflicting the pain of truth into our eyes. It shined into every dark corner revealing the amount of suffering, hopelessness, anger and frustration we all felt and still feel as a nation. It’s been brewing and building over many years with people feeling left out, unheard or being shoved to the wayside.

Now where do we go from here? How do we move on within this culture of rapid judgement and self-inflicted violence? How do we heal after a twisted election filled with vindictive, verbal sparring between the candidates, social media, our society and our loved ones? What’s the answer?

Be the light. Shine the light. Share the light.

To be light means to listen with deep compassion and understanding. Not with a mindset of us and them or east side, west side. Or how could you or why didn’t you. But with why or what? Or who you are or tell me your story? This is an opportunity to start a sincere, open conversation with people on the other side to gain a deeper understanding of what pain and suffering lies beneath.

The planet is crying in desperation for more lightworkers not darkworkers. Choose to be a lightworker and help make this earth a better place. Hold out your hand and be ready to serve. Not only for yourself, but for humanity. Turn on your inner light and let your heart rule. It’s that simple. Your ego is what makes it difficult. Not your heart.

Together with you and me and us and them, we have the power to create positive change by being the light with an understanding we all want one thing.

To be happy.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s your town or a third world country. Or your run-down, beat-up house or a majestic, 12-room mansion. We all are connected in one family. That’s the universal truth. Like most families, there will be people you don’t agree with. But whether you like or not, we are all one in need of healing and love. And the more we heal, the more we love, the more we can reunite.

All it takes is one spark to light a flame growing into a wildfire burning down all the pain, negativity, anger, hatred and pain. All that will be left are the ashes leaving the space to build and create something new. Together we can build this new creation with light, love, patience and understanding. Step-by-step. Brick-by-brick.

Go out into this dark world and be the light, shine the light and share the light. You need it. Your family needs it. Your neighbors need it. Your city needs it. Our country needs it.

The world needs it.